Supporting Children, Teens, and Families Through Healing, Grief, and Connection.
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Stacy Schaffer is a children’s therapist, an author, and a woman who somehow managed to take a childhood full of silence, survival mode, and adults who absolutely should’ve known better…
and turn it into wisdom, connection, and a book that reads like a hug from someone who actually gets it.
Her story starts with a four-year-old trying to tell the truth to adults who were about as helpful as a broken umbrella in a hurricane…
and from there, it only gets darker, twistier, and weirdly yes - funny.
Because of course she copes the same way we do around here: with sarcasm, resilience, and jokes that toe the line between therapy and ‘my therapist will be adjusting my treatment plan after this.’
She’s been through the kind of trauma that makes you want to crawl into a cave…and she did - literally and metaphorically.
With Love from a Children's Therapist
But somehow she crawled back out, became a clinician, and wrote a book called With Love From a Children’s Therapist - part memoir, part manual for how to not emotionally damage the next generation, and part ‘wow, I am learning and unlearning things I didn’t even know were inside my brain.’
She’s warm, she’s wickedly funny, she’s trauma-informed as hell, and she brings so much heart to this conversation.
Children's Therapist and Author.
“Powerful. Heartfelt. Eye-opening. Stacy takes readers on a profound journey through trauma and healing, bravely sharing her own pain-filled story alongside the stories of her clients. With the wisdom of a seasoned therapist, she weaves together insights and reflections that not only deepen our understanding of trauma but also illuminate the resilience and empowerment that emerge from it. She fearlessly addresses the topics we often shy away from, bringing them into the light with compassion and clarity. This book will touch your heart, bring tears to your eyes, and offer a raw, lived experience of trauma — far beyond the pages of a textbook.”
— Lisa Dion, LPC, RPT-S, creator of Synergetic Play Therapy; President of the Synergetic Play Therapy Institute
“In a powerful and poignant blend of telling her own story and the stories of kids in her office, Stacy Schaffer illuminates important truths about vulnerability, healing, and resilience for all ages. Hitting directly on real things that kids and grown-ups struggle with, With Love from a Children’s Therapist will help parents feel more resourced in supporting their kids, it will help individuals of all ages own and honor their stories in meaningful ways, and it will help all of us open up to the power of healing, honesty, and community in our fragmented world.”
— Kathy Escobar, author of Practicing: Changing Yourself to Change the World and Cofounder of The Refuge
“In With Love from a Children’s Therapist, Stacy Schaffer writes from the heart for the heart. In her book, Schaffer describes story after story of the power of earned security… Schaffer interweaves stories of her own healing while discussing difficult topics and concepts, and does so in an approachable, easy-to-understand manner. Her love for her clinical work shines through as does her humor and knowledge.”
— Clair Mellenthin, PhD, RPT-S; Creator of Attachment Centered Play Therapy
“This book…deeply resonated with me and is truly a fantastic first few steps for any adult (not just parents!!) on not just becoming a better adult, but a better person. The capacity and desire to communicate and understand children is perhaps the most underrated and under-discussed trait… ever? Please please please start listening.”
— Ivy Anderson (Goodreads review)